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August Newsletter
In This Issue:
:: How to Forgive
:: The Forgiveness Project
:: New Limited-Edition SPF35 High Gloss Lip Shine Colors
:: Here, There, and Back Again
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Me at Macchu Picchu in Peru!

After my 4 day hike to Machu Picchu!

I am back home after an amazing experience in Ecuador and Peru! Please be patient as I catch up on email and phone calls while helping as many clients as I can.

Liz from Greenville Yoga and I have lots to do to get ready for our Month of Forgiveness in September! You'll want to mark your calendars with all the events we have planned. It will be an amazing journey through healing, understanding, forgiveness and moving forward.

This newsletter is the second part in our 3 part series on Forgiveness. Read part 1 in our previous newsletter and part 3 in September!

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How to Forgive

I could so relate to this statement and this is how I had to start, with simply "wanting to want to forgive."

My experience has shown me that you can begin with willingness. You can work with "wanting to forgive." (Or even "wanting to want to forgive.") It has to start with the intent to see things differently. Or even the willingness to stop seeing yourself as the victim. Willingness has a lot of power.

- Christine Kane

We all have to start somewhere right? So if the best you can do right now is wanting to want to forgive, then good for you. It is the first step.

How do you forgive someone not seeking forgiveness?For me this was all I could do, and to stop wanting to harm the other person. I think another part is that I wanted He Who Shall Not Be Named to say he was sorry and to ask for my forgiveness, to explain why things happened the way they did so I could let go of my anger. I know that is completely unrealistic and for most people they are too embarrassed to ever actually ask for your forgiveness or maybe even to say they are sorry for what they did to hurt you.

So really you are simply hurting yourself right? Because whoever the person is that hurt you has already moved on with their lives and maybe they have twinges of guilt or maybe they are sorry for what they did but they might not even give you another thought.

So you being angry or hurt over something that someone did to you really only hurts yourself. You sure are not keeping the other person up at night with your tossing and turning, your crying or bad dreams.

So how do we let that hurt go, how do we forgive the other person, how do we love ourselves enough to move on? For some people I think this process is easier. They just decide that something is over and can process it and move on.

I am not one of those people. I am like a dog with a bone and even after I know there is nothing left I am still not willing to let go because I don't want to give up on someone. Which is kind of foolish since they have obviously given up on me.

Tiny Buddha websiteMaybe some of the recommendations in the article by Lori of Tiny Buddha will help. I thought it was interesting and I picked out some parts that resonated with me. These statements were mostly from her readers on the idea of forgiveness.

  • I remind myself that I forgive not for them but for me and that it's easier to forgive than to hang on to so much anger, hurt and betrayal. -Sarah Clark
  • Do not keep thinking of the past or the bad thing that happened; when you let go of it, you get over the anger/bitterness that you felt and it clears the path of forgiveness! The best thing is time! -Ashna Singh
  • You remember why you love them. Love is about forgiveness.- Holly Chapman
  • Forgiveness comes easier with the passing of time. I tend to find that, if I am wronged, I forgive the person before they forgive themselves, and when I am in need of forgiveness, it is I who feels the guilt for longer. -Mandy Richardson
  • Don't force it. If I don't feel forgiving, I can at least not act on my anger. Eventually forgiveness will come if you welcome it. -Julie Trottier
  • Give up on all hope of a better past. -Matt Child
  • Every time you think of them send them love. After a while it gets easy. -Crystal Chang
  • Write a brutally honest, emotionally raw letter telling them how much they have hurt and angered you, then tear it up and burn it. As you watch the smoke rise, think about the fact that you are not that hurt and that anger. It is fleeting, just like everything else. As the smoke carrying your hurt and disappointment disappears into the air, you can let it go. -Renate Wuersig
  • Understand this: whether you like it or not, over time, you will stop feeling the pain, so why hold on to something that's going to go away anyway? -Nirav KAKU

I agree with Lori here - at the end of your life, would you think, "I wish I stayed angry longer"? You generally say one of three things: "I'm sorry," "I forgive you," or "I love you."


Dr. Phil is not always my favorite but I like what he has to say in this article. The last point is also something that was discussed in the Understanding Karma class I took with Svar at Greenville Yoga in April. Every experience we have there is a lesson to be learned, right? I did tell myself this in the beginning - "What are the lessons that I need to learn so I NEVER have to go through this kind of pain again!"

My problem was that the lessons I felt I learned actually cut me off from a lot of people, and I was - and still am - on guard constantly. Now my challenge is to take the lessons I have learned and use them in a more positive way.

"Share your experience with others. Finding a lesson in what happened can help put the experience in perspective and your emotions in check. People can thrive and suffer at the same time."


One thing that I have started doing any time He Who Shall Not Be Named pops in my head - I tell him he is no longer allowed here; I am letting you go. I can have these crazy conversations in my head that would totally amaze you - it is probably why I get confused so easily. So for me just doing that has already helped. Then when I talked with Liz from Greenville Yoga, her suggestion was to welcome the feeling in and then to send that person love.

I know for sure that time does help, and for everyone that time is different. Some people are able to accept when something has happened and are able to move on in a shorter time frame. Some of us are like a dog with a favorite bone. We don't let go of something until there is nothing left. (Can you tell I miss my girls? It's so quiet in my house now.)

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The Forgiveness Project

The Forgiveness ProjectIn my research, I came across this fabulous site called The Forgiveness Project. I just knew that I had to bring this to Greenville, so I contacted one of the coolest people that I know and shared my findings. Liz Delany of Greenville Yoga and I are so excited to bring to Greenville this amazing project!

Liz has been on her own path of forgiveness and has been studying and learning about forgiveness for the last 10 years. She has spent a decade studying with the head of the Sufi order, Max Strom, Buddhist teachers, and with several wonderful healers in the area.

We are so excited to bring The Forgiveness Project to Greenville and we hope that you find it as empowering, moving and healing as we have.

One of Liz's favorite mentors is Archbishop Desmond Tutu and he is involved with this project as well.

Since I celebrate 10 years in business all on my own, and Liz is celebrating 9 years of business, we are teaming up for our Anniversary Parties as well.

The whole month of September will be filled with events. I am writing to ask your help in several different ways.

First, here is what we are working on (Events will be held at Greenville Yoga's Augusta Road location unless stated otherwise): The F Word exhibition

  • The F Word: Images of Forgiveness; 9/3-9/15 View this powerful art installation from September 3rd through the 15th. It has been seen in over 300 venues worldwide. The F Word shows eighteen images and stories of radical forgiveness. (free) Opening reception and viewing of The F Word is Friday, September 6th, from 7-9pm (free)
  • Anniversary Party: Silent Auction, Potluck & Dance Party; Saturday, 9/7 This will be a combined celebration with Greenville Yoga & Raspberry Moon. We will host a silent auction to raise money for the Forgiveness Project and Julia Valentine Center. Bring a dish to share from 4-8pm. Stay from 8-10pm to dance the night away with our very own DJ Frank Roth, a former DJ from NYC.
  • Write Your Way to Forgiveness with Heather Marshall; Thursday 9/12 Using creative writing techniques, participants will explore moments of their past that have caused unresolved hurt or shame, will write what acknowledgement, apology or reparation they might want, and envision what their lives might be like if they could relinquish resentment, indignation and anger. 7:30-9pm (donations)
  • The Final Gift: Documentary & Speaker Therese Bartholomew; Sunday, 9/15 Therese Bartholomew will join us to share her documentary The Final Gift about her brother's murder and her personal journey of forgiveness. There will be a talk and time for questions and answers. Time & location TBA (donations)
  • Yoga, Breathing & Forgiveness with Liz Delaney; Sunday, 9/22 Join Liz for a talk that will help you see forgiveness in a new light. Following the talk, practice a gentle flow class with breathwork and meditation that will begin the process of healing. 4-6pm (donations)

We are really excited about this and think it is going to be super powerful. Any help you can provide would be greatly appreciated!

Here is where we need help:

  • If you are interested in donating a silent auction item, please let me know. I would not need them until August but if you could let me know then I will put you on my list of awesomeness! ;)
  • If you know any performers that may want to perform 9/7 - music or dance, during the anniversary celebration and silent auction and kick-off of "the F word" - please pass this email along to them.
  • We will be creating a Facebook Event and would really love for you to share the event with your friends.
  • Share any of our newsletters or blog posts. Liz will be writing a series of blog posts that I'll be linking to on Facebook and the Raspberry Moon website.

We can't wait! Stay tuned for more info as we have it.

With Love,
Liz and Nicole

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Here, There, and Back Again

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I am back home after an amazing experience in Ecuador and Peru! Please be patient as I catch up on email and phone calls while helping as many clients as I can.


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